As a mother, I spend the majority of my time taking care of everyone else. The picture shows a prescription on the left for a Mammogram dated 9/2016 and on the right is a prescription for lab work for my thyroid from seven months ago. Obviously neither has been done. I am also a year overdue for my teeth cleaning and has cancelled her cavity fillings appointment two different times. I finally got my hair done after someone commented that they like me as a brunette. Considering I am blonde, it went over as well as someone in my office telling me I looked tired, when I actually had slept thru the night.
Meanwhile, Tucker and Wyatt are signed up for OCGym, skateboarding lessons, T-Ball, and Camp James. They are well dressed, hair is combed, and relatively clean….depends on the time of day you see them. They make all of their doctor appointments and the paperwork is even filled out ahead of time. After searching 7 different ABA therapy companies for Wyatt, he is signed up and the 2 hours worth of paperwork completed. I even completed the additional 2 hours of paperwork for Wyatt’s school evaluation and yearly IEP meeting. Every therapy appointment is booked and attended. The bills are paid, stove repaired, and fence fixed. Property taxes are paid, yearly tax workbook is filled out and includes all the necessary paperwork is attached. At work, my budget has been submitted and approved, 500 page Business Plan is being worked on and every Action Item is submitted on time. The three business trips over the last two months, have been attended by me and successful. The one week work retreat I am hosting starting tomorrow is ready and am looking forward to working on our Business Plan.
Yet, I have my hair in a mom bun, no makeup on and I am pretty sure I didn’t shower. I am wearing the same outfit that I wore to dinner last night, because I was to tired to come up with a new outfit. I am pretty sure my nails have the remnants of a New Years Eve polish and quite frankly I think the last time I shaved my legs was because I was getting a pedicure. Why do we make ourselves the last priority? Why do we make sure everyone’s needs are meet before ours?
I think my biggest challenge as a full time working mom is TIME. I just don’t have it. People say, “you just need to schedule time.” When?? I am up at 7 am getting kids ready for school, then work from 8-5 pm and then home with kids doing our nightly routine. I don’t sit down until they go to bed and by them I am exhausted. This also include my husband helping with the kids. We then eat dinner and try to take a break before falling asleep. I used to read 100 pages a night of a good book, now I am pretty sure I am asleep before my head hits the pillow.
I hope you didn’t read this blog hoping I would have the answers…LOL
I would love to hear from other moms and dads, how do you make the time to take care of yourself? How do you carve out the time? What special things do you do to make yourself a priority?
Adulting is hard.