Sleeping Issues and Autism

It seems our sleeping issue have regressed and we all are exhausted. This is our current sleeping situation:

Wyatt is 5 1/2 years old and we are currently using 5 mg Melatonin ER and Lavender Oil in a diffuser and also rubbing it own the bottom of his feet before bed. This was working for a few months, however he is back to not being able to fall asleep until 11-12 pm and waking up in the middle of the night as well as the first one up. This is not enough sleep for him and causing an increase in bad behaviors during the day and at school. This is not enough sleep for his parents as well and bad behaviors have been know to occur. 😉

Recently he has become anxious when going to bed and wants the bed completely covered with blankets as well as many lights on as he can negotiate with his parents. Cullen put up Christmas Lights around his bed to help but he still insists at least one light on or he becomes very anxious. To make matters worse, if there are any holes showing where the blankets overlap, then he can’t sleep and we have to fix the holes. This can happen 4-5 times a night.

We made an appointment with a natural doctor to help get him on some supplements in order to avoid putting a 5 year old on prescription sleeping pills. She was a breathe of fresh air and recommended the following supplements:

  1. Liquid Calcium Magnesium (helps calm mind and body)
  2. Cortisol Manager (helps stop mind racing)
  3. Inositol Powder  (helps anxiety and OCD behaviors)

Initially, Wyatt had some stomach issues as a result from the Magnesium and we have since stopped the Magnesium and are working on some of Wyatt’s gut issues that are often associated with Autism. However, we are happy to report that after 5 days on the new Supplements, Wyatt is asleep by 9-930 pm and isn’t waking up in the middle of the night. 🙂

If you are looking for a natural doctor, I would recommend Newport Integrative Health located in Costa Mesa.

Dr. Koren Barrett (949) 743-5770 and http://www.newportintegrativehealth.com

Thanks,

H

 

Youth Sports and Autism

I have really struggled with this post. I have so many thoughts and emotions on this topic, and not sure how to organize it, so please bear with me.

I wanted my twin 5-year-old boys to try a youth sport this year, so I signed them up for soccer. I volunteered to coach because I wanted my son Wyatt, who has Autism, to be taught by someone who understands Autism and how they need to be coached. Plus, I used to play soccer so I thought it would be an awesome experience for all.

We had our first soccer practice and I was so pleased to see a few other boys who were in Wyatt’s class at school and who also had Autism. I was excited that I would have the opportunity to spend time with these awesome kids and to try and give them a positive experience. Most of the kids spend hours in therapy and school, so getting them on a team, having fun, was my goal.

After the first game was over, it was clear that our boys with Autism, found it difficult to play in this kind of environment. All three of them were on the field, super excited, and really wanting to play the game but anxiety of getting hit with the ball, screaming parents, and coaches encouraging voices seemed very overwhelming. Yet, they continued to play and had a blast. They didn’t care about people staring at them, or other boys making rude comments, or parent’s being more concerned with winning, but I did.

I heard, “what is wrong with that boy?” and “why is he making such loud noises?” I heard “why are you talking like a baby?” and “look, he can’t even talk.” I will be honest, the last one was about Wyatt and took a lot of strength not to break down and cry on the field; just held on until we were home. It was about my son Wyatt, who sometimes when he is over stimulated and overwhelmed he has a hard time finding his words. It broke me. Kids were making fun of my son when I was standing right there. I kept asking myself, “where did these children learn to be so mean?”

I then heard rumblings about it not being fair that we were losing so many games and some other unfortunate comments by parents, who were more concerned about winning then FIVE year old’s learning soccer and having fun. It then became very clear that these kids learned from their parent’s.

I started to observe the parents and I was watching grown men yell at their kids to, Pay attention! Stop messing around!!! I heard a coach yell, “We are the #1 team, so let’s act like it!” Let’s remind ourselves that these children are FIVE. I saw a parent cause his son to cry because he was yelling at him.

These parents were putting pressure on their children to win at age FIVE. No wonder we live in a world of competition and judgement. I saw parents who were more interested in their child winning, then appreciating children with special needs and giving them the ability to be part of a team. I see parents who tell their kids not to text while driving, as them mom is texting while driving. I see parents tell their kids to not drink and drive, yet they drive home after a few drinks after dinner. I see parents hosting a tailgate at a high school football game and then act surprised when 79 children get kicked out of school for drinking at that football game.

Listen, I am not perfect. Not even close. But, I teach my kids empathy and compassion. I teach them that everyone is different and unique and being different is cool. I teach my kids that winning isn’t everything, and if you lose a soccer game, it means there is more to work on and we must work hard to succeed. I also teach my kids, that children can be mean and if someone is mean to you, then you don’t need them to be a friend.

Do I just need to lower my expectations? Do I just need to come to grips with reality that my son will not play well in a team environment? Maybe. I do wish that people would be more tolerant with people with Special needs and appreciate their differences. Most importantly I wish that parents would take these type of opportunities to help educate their children on kids with Special needs.

 

 

Vitamin Supplements

When Wyatt was first diagnosed with Autism, I did a lot of research on vitamin supplements. The results that parents and doctors found made me interested enough to try. Anything that might help offset behaviors was worth it to me. After extensive research, here are the vitamins that I would recommend. Please only try one vitamin at a time to make sure your little one can tolerate and that it has a positive affect. For example, Wyatt could tolerate small does of B12 but when we switched to B12 injections, he became very angry and we stopped immediately. What vitamins have you tried or do you recommend?

1) Super Nu Thera by Kirkman Labs (Multivitamin) http://www.amazon.com/Kirkman-Super-Nu-Thera-…/…/ref=sr_1_1… follow directions

2) B12 with 5000 mcg Methylcobalamin http://www.amazon.com/Jarrow-Formulas-Methylc…/…/ref=sr_1_2…
If he shows improvement on this she should get B12 injections. Follow directions. There are liquid forms if he won’t chew.

3) Children’s fish oil http://www.amazon.com/Carlson-Kids-Finest-Ora…/…/ref=sr_1_4… follow directions

4) If he has trouble sleeping you can give him 1 teaspoon of Melatonin http://www.amazon.com/Natrol-Melatonin-2-5mg-…/…/ref=sr_1_1… 1 teaspoon in water or juice

5) If he has any digestive issues use this probiotic. http://www.amazon.com/Culturelle-Digestive-He…/…/ref=sr_1_5… 1 capsule in water or juice

xo

H